Ways Women Orgasm, the Female Sexuality Forum, Announces a New Blog Post: Sheltering Young Women from Eroticism
Young women are often not told about eroticism and sexual pleasure for fear that they will be exploited by men through sex. Since women's sexual arousal is more difficult to achieve during sex, women are less likely than men to find sexual promiscuity sexually rewarding. Ways Women Orgasm is a forum for female sexuality and provides an open discussion of women's orgasm techniques including clitoral stimulation and sexual fantasies.
Windsor, United Kingdom, November 20, 2009 --(PR.com)-- Reading the word ‘sexy’, a boy of nine screwed up his face in a gesture of disgust and said “Yuck!” I asked him why and he replied, “Because my parents told me it’s disgusting”. Presumably these parents are trying to warn their son away from the temptations of sexual pleasure with its associated immoral behaviour.
For women, there has always been acceptance of sex within the context of family but disapproval of sex for pleasure. In fact where a woman’s only sexual experiences are of intercourse, she is unlikely to ever discover her own sexual arousal.
Since women’s sexual arousal and orgasm is not automatic many women have no experience of enjoying their own sexual arousal and orgasm (either through masturbation or through exploring sex with a partner). Women’s sexual arousal relies on sexual fantasies and so without an appreciation of eroticism many women have no expectation for enjoying their own sexual pleasure.
“Women often feel they have no right to sexual experience apart from that which a man provides.” (p62 Woman’s Experience of Sex 1983)
Many women are disgusted by pornography because it appears to display women’s bodies like a meat market for male gratification. Women who appreciate being able to arouse a lover learn that male turn-ons simply work differently. A woman who learns how to orgasm, also knows the humility of accepting that the adult world cannot always be squeaky clean. Many other women (with fewer sexual instincts) can only justify sex as part of a loving relationship.
Disapproval of sexual promiscuity
Many people believe that women are always exploited through sex because men stand to gain so much more pleasure. Melanie Phillips (Daily Mail – 24th February 2003) complains about those who want to provide young people (girls of fifteen) with the facts about adult heterosexual practices (including oral sex and anal sex).
Melanie fears (as do many others) that knowledge about enjoying sexual pleasure will damage the teenagers’ emotional development and suggests that “genital gratification separated from a permanent loving commitment is a form of degradation.” She also believes that “spiritual and emotional meaning distinguishes human sexual activity from animal behaviour”.
There is no reason why honest information about sex should encourage sexual promiscuity in girls. Neither is it likely that knowing how couples enjoy sex in long-term sexual relationships will interfere with any loving relationship a woman might hope for – in fact quite the reverse. There is a double standard because no one worries that knowledge of sexual pleasure will do boys any harm.
The view that women’s experience of sex should be restricted to marriage almost denies the fact that a woman might be capable of appreciating her sexual experiences for their own sake. The fact is that some women do explore sexual pleasure. At its best, sex can be an innocent pleasure for any couple to enjoy whether they are married or not. If a woman finds a man she likes and respects, then the sex is sure to be even better.
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For women, there has always been acceptance of sex within the context of family but disapproval of sex for pleasure. In fact where a woman’s only sexual experiences are of intercourse, she is unlikely to ever discover her own sexual arousal.
Since women’s sexual arousal and orgasm is not automatic many women have no experience of enjoying their own sexual arousal and orgasm (either through masturbation or through exploring sex with a partner). Women’s sexual arousal relies on sexual fantasies and so without an appreciation of eroticism many women have no expectation for enjoying their own sexual pleasure.
“Women often feel they have no right to sexual experience apart from that which a man provides.” (p62 Woman’s Experience of Sex 1983)
Many women are disgusted by pornography because it appears to display women’s bodies like a meat market for male gratification. Women who appreciate being able to arouse a lover learn that male turn-ons simply work differently. A woman who learns how to orgasm, also knows the humility of accepting that the adult world cannot always be squeaky clean. Many other women (with fewer sexual instincts) can only justify sex as part of a loving relationship.
Disapproval of sexual promiscuity
Many people believe that women are always exploited through sex because men stand to gain so much more pleasure. Melanie Phillips (Daily Mail – 24th February 2003) complains about those who want to provide young people (girls of fifteen) with the facts about adult heterosexual practices (including oral sex and anal sex).
Melanie fears (as do many others) that knowledge about enjoying sexual pleasure will damage the teenagers’ emotional development and suggests that “genital gratification separated from a permanent loving commitment is a form of degradation.” She also believes that “spiritual and emotional meaning distinguishes human sexual activity from animal behaviour”.
There is no reason why honest information about sex should encourage sexual promiscuity in girls. Neither is it likely that knowing how couples enjoy sex in long-term sexual relationships will interfere with any loving relationship a woman might hope for – in fact quite the reverse. There is a double standard because no one worries that knowledge of sexual pleasure will do boys any harm.
The view that women’s experience of sex should be restricted to marriage almost denies the fact that a woman might be capable of appreciating her sexual experiences for their own sake. The fact is that some women do explore sexual pleasure. At its best, sex can be an innocent pleasure for any couple to enjoy whether they are married or not. If a woman finds a man she likes and respects, then the sex is sure to be even better.
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