Jan Harrell Ends the Blame Game in Relationships as Guest of Donna Marie Thompson, PhD - CEO of Goals in Action LLC - on the Bouncing Back Now TV Show

Washington, DC, March 13, 2011 --(PR.com)-- As Donna Marie Thompson's special guest on the Bouncing Back Now show on the Real Coaching Radio TV Network, Jan Harrell introduced the essential process of personal transformation as it relates to romantic relationships.

Harrell asserted that: "In order to properly enter into a relationship in a loving and balanced way, this personal transformation is a key prerequisite. Most of us are not adequately equipped with the tools we need to effectively manage our relationships - in peace. As a general rule, we were not trained to be acutely emotionally intelligent or even to be good, empathetic listeners."

Harrell stated that: "Some of the problems begin because we tend to fuse with our partner and then we expect them to think what we think, say what we say, and feel what we feel. No matter how close you are with your mate or how compatible you are as a couple – this is unattainable. It's not going to happen for all issues all the time. So when there is dissonance – we can feel that our love has abandoned us – a very primitive reaction to a very natural phenomenon."

In Harrell's second book: Love Again – Creating Relationships Without Blame, she espouses that relationships be managed with care and consideration and to avoid assigning blame because it plays no constructive role whatsoever in healthy relationships.

Harrell advised that: "You can prevent an argument. You can stop an argument in progress by responding to your emotional and physical cues. When you are agitated by something that your love says or does – there is a signal. Tightness in the chest or a sense of surprise – heed that signal. Step back and recognize that there is dissonance. When you do speak – speak with the intention to seek more information. Do not react with your first impression or a statement that is out of control. That uncontrolled statement is coming from your wounded, threatened self. That is not where healthy relationship communications are formulated."

For an argument that escalates very quickly, Harrell cautioned that: "It is best to completely disengage and regroup. Continue the conversation with cooler heads later." And for relationships on the brink, Harrell counseled that: "there is hope if you follow a three-step formula: 1) exhibit patience, 2) get the help you need to sort through your relationship issues, and 3) proceed without blame.

Thompson advised that: "Relationship communications are enhanced with a sense of true curiosity- seeking more information - rather than attaching your first impression to the message because it is likely in error."

For more information on Ms. Jan Harrell visit: http://www.InnerPeacePress.com

For more information on Donna Marie Thompson visit: http://www.BouncingBackNow.com

For more information on Donna Marie's latest book visit: http://www.BouncingBackFromLoss.com

For more information on the Real Coaching Radio TV Network and the Bouncing Back Now show visit: http://www.realcoachingradio.net/content/bouncing-back-now

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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She has authored two books and three e-books on bouncing back and relationships. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on BlogTalkRadio and on the Real Coaching Radio/TV network. Donna Marie was interviewed as a special guest on the Brian Tracy TV show as seen on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox affiliates around the country.

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